I’m sitting in the big comfy chair watching him.  He’s wearing sweatpants, no shirt and his hair is slightly a mess.  He walks over to me with a hot cup of tea and the little bear shaped honey bottle and asks, “What do you want for breakfast.”  “Surprise me.” I say.  He gives me a smirk and starts pulling ingredients from the refrigerator and cabinets.  A few minutes later he comes back over with plates for each of us.  We cuddle with our plates on the couch in front of the TV to eat, talk and watch whatever is on.  The food is as warm and wonderful as the man who made it.

Experiences like this have made for some of my favorite weekend mornings.  I can say without question,  there’s just something about a man who makes breakfast.  Most of the time, women are the care-takers and nurturers in the relationship.  We find this particular moment of  role reversal touching on a number of levels.  Rachael Ray says on her show all the time “Men who cook are sexy”.  She’s right.  If you are a man who thinks about cooking and says “I’m just not that guy”, trust me, you want to be that guy.

Want to be a man who makes breakfast?  Here are a few tips:

1. DO serve the meal after you prepare it.  The idea is to make her feel cared for and pampered.  There’s something almost magical about how good you look walking over with a plate of food.
2. DON’T try to make something fancy and impressive if that’s not your forte. Whatever you make will be appreciated.
3. DO toss in a little good natured bragging about the meal, even if all you can make is a hard boiled egg.  Confidence is always a turn-on.
4. DON’T leave the mess for her to clean up after the meal.
5. DO involve the children sometimes if you have kids.  Teach your kids that Mom should be appreciated more than just one day a year and show the woman you love that you know this as well.
6. DON’T make it a once in a lifetime event.  If you approach it with the “I’m going out of my way here, and don’t get used to this” attitude, you might as well not do it at all.
7. DO enjoy the meal with her.  Unless this is about giving her some “me time”, share the food and have good conversation with her. Relationship bonds of all kinds are often strengthened over a meal.  Let sharing breakfast be one of those moments in life that help you become closer.

I thought about writing this post as a Five for Friday, but I decided to post it earlier in the week so you could start thinking about it now.  Guys, this would be a great weekend to have one of those  moments when you do something unexpected when there isn’t a special occasion.  Ladies, if your guy could use a little nudge (and he’s not going to see it as nagging), there’s nothing wrong with emailing or texting  a link to this post.  I hope everyone reading this has a great week and an even better weekend.